The following all stemmed from hb not wanting Meia walking around the living room with a piece of bun in her hand.....
I've been a mom for the past 20 months, seriously, I do not think I've done a good job. Hb sorta 'blames' me for Meia's tantrums, in his words 'its because of u that she's like that'.... his words really HIT me. I told him that I do not entertain her tantrums (i.e rolling n lying on the floor)... he tells me not to push the blame on MIL n its me who needs to educate her. YES I am AWARE, infact, very aware that its MY responsibility to discipline n guide Meia n not simply raise my voice (okie, I'm guilty of that)... but I'm not the only one in the house.... neither am I shifting the blame on my MIL.
Yes, we should always explain to Meia that we do not like her bad behaviour n tantrums. And I do hope that she understands what we're trying to tell her. Honestly, I'm already trying my BEST... but somehow I feel its not my very BEST.... being a Mother is tough. Especially if u're a SAHM like me. Everyone blames me for all the 'bad' side of Meia, no one mentions a word about the 'good' stuff I taught her... everyone reminds me that I spoil her (as if they're not guilty of anything), everyone tells me the what nots etc.... if I were to go on, the list would be endless.
I read about SAHMs doing a very good job in raising their kids, ppl start to compare how I 'make' Meia to be (being clingy etc), they start to say 'oh only u do this, other kids aren't like u', 'I see other kids so well mannered...' Actually these are all the 'WHAT U DO NOT ACTUALLY SEE'. I believe all kids have their good n bad sides. Meia is not all bad, yes, she may have her tantrums n to us, it may seem she's the ultimate 'devil' while others are 'angels'...
SIGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BIG SIGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Will I EVER DO A GOOD JOB??????? how I wish there wasn't any comparison....
It isn't easy, really, it isn't easy. Seriously I don't even know how to end this post.... which mom out there doesn't want a well mannered kid, a docile angel with no temper, no tantrums.... u'll probably got urself a Barbie doll in that case.......